we inhabit to behave in certain ways and aspire to particular goals. In order to please and fit in we commonly do so, even if our natural, and perhaps as of yet, unarticulated, desire is to find meaning in other modes of being and doing. Frequently, it is in mid- or later life with the help of a trusted other(s) that our unease with a particular role or model of relating leads to a deeper exploration of who we are, what gifts we possess and how we might utilize them. Or, we may glimpse, through those